Guys, are you looking for your dream girl on the Internet?

LADIES, if you're Single for the Holidays and looking, I hope you have your Internet profile up-to-date. All reports from clients are that men are looking hard right now. Are they feeling lonely at the holidays? Are they getting prepared for the New Year? You be the judge, but check the sights you belong to often for news from guys, spruce up your profile, and enjoy the activity.

GENTLEMEN, we love it when you're out hunting, but not when you club us over the hair and try to drag us by our hair, knuckles dragging on the ground. Some words to the wise ...

THE TOP 10 ETIQUETTE RULES FOR ONLINE DATING (FOR MEN)or HOW NOT TO TURN OFF THE WOMAN OF YOUR DREAMS

Etiquette is about emotional intelligence - thinking about the other person and presenting your best self. All etiquette rules center around taking everyone into consideration, and making the other person comfortable, i.e., it isn’t all about you!

At the core level, however, it is totally about you. Rules of etiquette evolved to keep us from killing one another. For instance, as you know, the handshake has nothing to do with warmth and touching, that’s what hugs, frontal embraces, snuggling up next to someone, or putting your arm around them and pulling them toward you are all about. The handshake is extending your right hand, the hand that holds the weapon, toward the unknown individual, palm exposed, fingers spread, to show that you do not have a weapon in it. This gesture could preserve your life, as can all rules of etiquette. Gentleman, if you want to stay alive hunting on the Internet, here’s the recommended protocol.

You’re writing in order to attract a female, not to impress other guys with your prowess, or to stimulate yourself. Therefore you must write with what women like in mind. It’s been said that men are after sex, and women are after love. Since, of course, both are after both, let’s reframe that. Men lead with sex, and women lead with love. You know what sex is. Now we’ll break down what love is. Because to catch a rabbit, you must make like a carrot.

A person capable of loving, of giving love, must have values, integrity, sensitivity to the other (not to oneself alone, and not to an ideal), emotions deeper than lust, the ability to express and share them, consistency and reliability, and the ability to make a commitment and remain faithful.

That having been said, we proceed:

1. Lick your wounds in private or in the company of many women.

You aren’t ready to date exclusively until you’re over the last one. It's not nice to lead a woman on and you'll feel bad afterwards if you do, and who needs the guilt? If you’re just after a woman, any woman, don’t date one exclusively. This means, of course, that you don’t check “interested in marriage” on your profile.

If when you write your profile, it's full of self-pity, or things like “no addicts need apply,” or “I can’t stand a clingy woman,” you aren’t ready to date, you’re still living in the past.

No one in their right mind wants an addict or a clingy person, and to admit that you have been duped by one doesn't work in your favor. It is also not "being sensitive." Tell your therapist all about it, and then approach the dating world positively.
What you focus on, you attract!

2. To be a man is to know what you want, and to know how to get it.

Start with knowing whether you want to be on a dating site. There are plenty of adult and porn sites on the Internet. If that’s what you want, why would you be on a dating site?

3. Pole vaulting.

Emotional expression via words is no man’s forte, and the fact that this must be done in writing raises the bar yet another notch. A single coaching session can bring a strong ROI. You’ll get facts, clarity, and a well-written profile that will bring the results you want. Grammar and spelling are important because that’s the way women are!

We recommend women take a look at men’s magazines to see what words trigger response from men. I would recommend you look at women’s magazines to see what words make a woman receptive, but I can't see that happening, so just get a female coach.

4. She wants one man to meet all her needs.

While you want all women to meet your one need? Won’t work here. A good coach will make your profile individualized to you. The woman wants to see what you are like, how you are different, and what you have to offer her, as a unique individual. This requires work on your part, and this, too, is something women look for.

A woman wants to feel cherished, as if she's the only woman in the world for you. No mass emailings. Yes, she can tell. She has feminine intuition.

5. And you have gut instincts.

Gut instinct, and the ability to add one and one and come up with two. Gentlemen, if there were money in it, there would be a million porn sites for women, wouldn’t there?. Avoid that language. Don’t choose a nickname like “Horny in Howardsville.” On eHarmony, don’t send the “How do you feel about premarital sex?” question. Do not make references to your anatomy (or hers) and for heaven’s sake don’t send a photo of same or have a webcam experience in mind. You'll scare her off.

6. Women fall in love with their ears.

If you want to love more parts of her body than that, you have to start with words. This means paying attention to her words. Therefore, you must read her profile, sir, and respond to it, not just cruise through the photos. You must also actually read her emails.

7. Speak to god in Spanish, to your horse in German, to your men in French, and to woman in Italian. (Attributed to King Charles V)

It's music to their ears ... do you think it's because of all those vowels? At any rate, Italian opera has lasted longer than most things on earth, so check it out. It involves the other great tool of seduction, music. Music is great for stress reduction, and dating is stressful for men and women both. Music soothes the savage beast. When Orpheus needed the nasty Charon to row him over to Hades, what did he do? He sang him to sleep. You want to sing her defenses to sleep, so start learning how. Club Vivo Per Lei / I Live for Music will educate you, one sweet step at a time. Named after Andrea Bocelli's "Vivo Per Lei," a singer women love. He sang the duet, "Vivo Per Lei" with female singing stars from 5 different countries. He also happens to be blind, and you can't believe how tired we get of being queried about our appearance. Lately I've seen some progress ... men now write "It's okay if you're a little overweight." JUST SAY NO and skip all comments about weight. To the Italian, every woman is "bella," and, in fact, "you do not love her because she's beautiful, she's beautiful because you love her."

8. Don’t tell a man what to do.

We’re not trying to, we’re trying to sort out if you mean what you say. Be clear about what you want in terms of relationship and believe her when she says what she wants. If you’re not interested in marriage, and she is, don’t pursue her. Foul play!

Make sure your actions are true to you, as actions speak louder than words, especially when a woman is sizing up a man for a potential date or partner.

9. 90% of people on the sites admit to lying (said a recent survey).

Most often about age, however, weight, income, and marital status are also fair game, as well as anything else. Empathy may not be your strong suit, but think about it – what if you spend $1,000 to fly across the country to meet her, and it turns out her photo was 10 years and 50 lbs. ago? Don’t lie. It will come back to haunt you in the end, anyway.

10. Rejoice that dating websites are starting to feature live chat, live video and free VolP Broadband Long Distance.

Just be sure you’re dressed when you do it, tiger.

Check out my ebook, "Midlife Dating Survival Manual for Women".

JOIN CLUB VIVO PER LEI / I LIVE FOR MUSIC HERE. The right kind of music has health benefits important to men. Think it's for wusses? Listen to ..

NORMAN SCHWARTZKOPF, General, US Army, retired: "During the Gulf War, the few opportunities I had for relaxation I always listened to music, and it brought me great peace of mind."

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