Results of Singles' Poll re: Loneliness at the Holidays

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Make a cookie of this website -- bookmark it, because we have lots of ideas for singles over the holidays!

Here are the results from THE WEEKLY POLL on a singles' website:

Do you find the holidays difficult as a single person?

Yes, I feel lonely. 60.0%

No, it is a time of celebration. 40.0%

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If you find the holidays lonely, as a single person, stay tuned for ideas, solutions and encouragement, coming up!

We singles like to stay busy. This photo is actually of a cookie I entered in a Christmas cookie decorating one year. A single friend and I decided to enter, and go join the celebration. There are lots of ways to enjoy the holidays.

Here's the recipe for the cookie:

SUSAN'S SUGAR COOKIE RECIPE

1 cup margarine
1 cup sugar]2 eggs
1 t. vanilla
2 2/3 cups sifted flour
3/4 t. salt
1/2 t. baking powder
1/2 t. baking soda

Cream sugar and margarine. Beat in eggs and vanilla. Blend in dry inredients. Chill dough for 3 hrs Roll out and cut cookies. Bake on ungreased sheets at 375 for 6-8 minutes. Then decorate! (Buy a set of tubes are Hobby Lobby, Crafts, etc.)

Got kids in your life? Let them join in.

P.S. Be sure and buy PASTE food coloring. Liquid coloring will make the frosting too runny. And don't stress, just buy a tin of frosting. That's what I did, and this cookie won first place! Boy, was I thrilled!

Hear the Children Singing

Enjoy the Christmas bells from The Christmas Attic. Yes, Christmas is here. Stay tuned for lots of tips as we cruise in to what may be bumpy waters for some singles!

I'll be going to the Trans-Siberian Christmas Extravaganza later this month, and am really looking forward to it. There's so much great entertainment this time of year, why sit at home feeling lonely? It's a great chance to call a friend, get out and enjoy yourself.

Just do it!
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Win the Battle of the Bulge During the Holidays

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HOW TO INDULGE AND WIN THE BATTLE OF THE BULGE DURING THE HOLIDAYS
Guest author: Joey Dweck

If you are trying to lose weight, the holidays literally are the heaviest time of the year.

So how do you eat, drink and be merry while you're counting every single calorie? By getting a buddy who will help you make the right choices bite by bite.

Scientific studies have shown that people who diet with partners are much more likely to lose weight and to keep it off. And there's no more crucial time to have a buddy on your side than from Thanksgiving to New Year's.

"During the holidays, you can use all the help you can get," says Alan Gettis, a nutritionist and clinical psychologist in River Edge, N.J. "I urge my clients to get a full-time year-round a buddy, it could be a husband or a wife, a neighbor
or a friend. I But don't wait for the first feast to find a buddy, says Susan Holmberg, a nutritionist and behavioral therapist in Oradell, N.J. "Once you start overeating, you don't want a "Buddy," she says.

Buddies give you moral support and help you identify bad eating habits and patterns because they have been there, too, she says. "You may want to have more than one buddy," she says. "You can have one on the phone and one who exercises with you and goes to parties with you. You can make deals with your buddy where you both go to the party but only one of you goes through the buffet line or where you agree to split one meal."

Buddies also are like therapists and coaches, who listen to you and keep you on the right path. "Your buddy should be a person you can share your feelings with and rely on in a pinch without fear that your feelings will be used as ammunition against you," Gettis says.

Holmberg says that using a "Buddy" is particularly helpful to people who may be reluctant to change because those who sign on can choose a either real-life buddy, someone in their geographical area they can meet and exercise with, or select someone to work with solely online or via the phone. "Sometimes anonymity is good," she says. "You are much more likely to try it if you don't have to meet the person."

Gettis points out that with a "Buddy", "you can find someone with similar goals, and both of you can support each other."

Buddies also take on active roles, getting you to stop a bad habit and replace it with a healthy one. Gettis likens the process to a marathon, where the runners are tempted to give up before the 26th mile because it is so difficult to stay the
course. "The 18- to 19-mile mark is the crucial one," he says. "During a marathon I was once in, I came upon two guys running - one was hurting, and the other was encouraging him to keep running. I followed them for two to three miles, and the one
kept saying, 'Leave me.' The other kept saying, 'I'm not going to.' And I thought, 'What great friends!' Then I heard the one hurting say, 'What's your name?'"

Perhaps the most important role that buddies play is helping plan strategies and then making sure that you make them work. "They can teach you to take baby steps and to change your environment," Holmberg says. "For instance, they may suggest that you keep sneakers in your trunk or put on your gym clothes as you leave the office so you don't have an excuse not to exercise. They can call ahead to the party to check on the menu and give you a low-cal recipe to bring so there's at least one thing that you can eat."

Holmberg says that some of the changes are so simple that people overlook them. A buddy may, for instance, suggest that you get at the end of the buffet line so there is less food available or help the host wash dishes because if your hands are wet, you are less likely to nibble on the last remaining crumbs from the serving dishes. "If you are asked to bring dessert, your buddy may remind you not to make chocolate chip cookies because the last time you ate a dozen cookies before you brought them to the party and nibbled the chips while baking and suggest that instead you make something like a pie that can't be nibbled because it is cut only when served."

Buddies also can help you practice being assertive, not aggressive to make significant changes in your diet and your lifestyle. "By being assertive, you attack the task," Gettis says. "By being aggressive, you attack the person. You need to
stand your ground and in a firm but angry voice say: 'I really would appreciate it if you would not bring home anything fattening. You may have had good intentions, but I'd feel better if you didn't do it again.'"

So don't wait until you're boxed in by back-to-back parties and surrounded by wall-to-wall goodies to find a buddy. Make an early New Year's resolution to do it now, long before the marathon feasts begin, Gettis says. "You have to be realistic, so don't count on losing 10 to 12 pounds during the holidays. Don't say you'll lose 10 pounds during the holidays, and don't gain 10 either. And get someone to be your buddy for all 12 months of the year. You have nothing to lose - but weight."

bout The Author: Joey Dweck is the Founder & CEO of WeightLossBuddy.com a website committed to 24/7 support, expert advice, and helping people find a buddy(s) who will support their effort to lose weight, and live a healthier lifestyle. And it's all Free. Sign up for the Free 4-Part E-Course "Losing For Good"
http://www.weightlossbuddy.com.
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Single for the Thanksgiving

HAPPY THANKSGIVING. Please visit MY WEBSITE for articles, resources, quotes beautiful holiday music, inspiration and more. And take a look at Club Vivo Per Lei / I Live for Music while you're there, as we'll be cruising on into the holiday season from here.

"Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all the others." (Cicero)

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We celebrate gratitude in our daily lives.

PRAYER

God, when I have food, help me to remember the hungry;
When I have work, help me to remember the jobless;
When I have a home, help me to remember those who have no home at all;
When I am without pain, me to remember those who suffer,
And remembering,
Help me to destroy my complacency;
and be concerned enough to help;
By word and deed, those who cry out for what we take for granted.

CHECK OUT THIS THANKSGIVING CARD FROM JACQUIE LAWSON

"If the only prayer you said in your whole life was 'thank you' that would suffice." Meister Eckhart

"The Pilgrims built 7 times as many graves as they did huts. No Americans have been more impoverished than these who nevertheless, set aside a day of thanksgiving." H. U. Westermayer

"As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words; but to live by them." -John F. Kennedy

For more quotes, articles, resources, musics, anticipations of Christmas, tips on enjoying Thanksgiving more, and inspiration, go HERE ( www.susandunn.cc/thanksgiving.htm ).

Thanksgiving, the only remaining holiday we celebrate in the US with no commerical, materialistic overtones. We give thanks, not gifts.

Single for the Holidays

A PRAYER FOR THOSE IN NEED OF HEALING
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From a client ...
"Thank you very much for all the time you spent with me on the phone, and thank you for being so understanding and caring. I can tell that you truly care about people and helping them with their lives." Warmest aloha, M.E.

For coaching, email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc or call 210-496-0678.
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The holidays can be excruciating for those who are suffering, in pain, feeling alone, or surviving recent losses. We offer ...

A PRAYER FOR THANKSGIVING FOR THOSE IN NEED OF HEALING

God, make me brave for life;
oh, braver than this.
Let me straighten after pain
as the tree straightens after the rain,
shining and lovely again.

God, make me brave for life;
much braver than this.
As the blown grass lifts,
let me rise from sorrow with quiet eyes,
knowing Thy way is wise.

God, make me brave --
Life brings such blinding things
Help me to keep my sight,
help me to see aright
that out of darkness
comes light.
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For Thanksgiving

A PRAYER FOR THOSE IN NEED OF HEALING
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From a client ...
"Thank you very much for all the time you spent with me on the phone, and thank you for being so understanding and caring. I can tell that you truly care about people and helping them with their lives." Warmest aloha, M.E.

For coaching, email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc or call 210-496-0678.
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The holidays can be excruciating for those who are suffering, in pain, or surviving recent losses. We offer ...

A PRAYER FOR THANKSGIVING FOR THOSE IN NEED OF HEALING

God, make me brave for life;
oh, braver than this.
Let me straighten after pain
as the tree straightens after the rain,
shining and lovely again.

God, make me brave for life;
much braver than this.
As the blown grass lifts,
let me rise from sorrow with quiet eyes,
knowing Thy way is wise.

God, make me brave --
Life brings such blinding things
Help me to keep my sight,
help me to see aright
that out of darkness
comes light.
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Guys, are you looking for your dream girl on the Internet?

LADIES, if you're Single for the Holidays and looking, I hope you have your Internet profile up-to-date. All reports from clients are that men are looking hard right now. Are they feeling lonely at the holidays? Are they getting prepared for the New Year? You be the judge, but check the sights you belong to often for news from guys, spruce up your profile, and enjoy the activity.

GENTLEMEN, we love it when you're out hunting, but not when you club us over the hair and try to drag us by our hair, knuckles dragging on the ground. Some words to the wise ...

THE TOP 10 ETIQUETTE RULES FOR ONLINE DATING (FOR MEN)or HOW NOT TO TURN OFF THE WOMAN OF YOUR DREAMS

Etiquette is about emotional intelligence - thinking about the other person and presenting your best self. All etiquette rules center around taking everyone into consideration, and making the other person comfortable, i.e., it isn’t all about you!

At the core level, however, it is totally about you. Rules of etiquette evolved to keep us from killing one another. For instance, as you know, the handshake has nothing to do with warmth and touching, that’s what hugs, frontal embraces, snuggling up next to someone, or putting your arm around them and pulling them toward you are all about. The handshake is extending your right hand, the hand that holds the weapon, toward the unknown individual, palm exposed, fingers spread, to show that you do not have a weapon in it. This gesture could preserve your life, as can all rules of etiquette. Gentleman, if you want to stay alive hunting on the Internet, here’s the recommended protocol.

You’re writing in order to attract a female, not to impress other guys with your prowess, or to stimulate yourself. Therefore you must write with what women like in mind. It’s been said that men are after sex, and women are after love. Since, of course, both are after both, let’s reframe that. Men lead with sex, and women lead with love. You know what sex is. Now we’ll break down what love is. Because to catch a rabbit, you must make like a carrot.

A person capable of loving, of giving love, must have values, integrity, sensitivity to the other (not to oneself alone, and not to an ideal), emotions deeper than lust, the ability to express and share them, consistency and reliability, and the ability to make a commitment and remain faithful.

That having been said, we proceed:

1. Lick your wounds in private or in the company of many women.

You aren’t ready to date exclusively until you’re over the last one. It's not nice to lead a woman on and you'll feel bad afterwards if you do, and who needs the guilt? If you’re just after a woman, any woman, don’t date one exclusively. This means, of course, that you don’t check “interested in marriage” on your profile.

If when you write your profile, it's full of self-pity, or things like “no addicts need apply,” or “I can’t stand a clingy woman,” you aren’t ready to date, you’re still living in the past.

No one in their right mind wants an addict or a clingy person, and to admit that you have been duped by one doesn't work in your favor. It is also not "being sensitive." Tell your therapist all about it, and then approach the dating world positively.
What you focus on, you attract!

2. To be a man is to know what you want, and to know how to get it.

Start with knowing whether you want to be on a dating site. There are plenty of adult and porn sites on the Internet. If that’s what you want, why would you be on a dating site?

3. Pole vaulting.

Emotional expression via words is no man’s forte, and the fact that this must be done in writing raises the bar yet another notch. A single coaching session can bring a strong ROI. You’ll get facts, clarity, and a well-written profile that will bring the results you want. Grammar and spelling are important because that’s the way women are!

We recommend women take a look at men’s magazines to see what words trigger response from men. I would recommend you look at women’s magazines to see what words make a woman receptive, but I can't see that happening, so just get a female coach.

4. She wants one man to meet all her needs.

While you want all women to meet your one need? Won’t work here. A good coach will make your profile individualized to you. The woman wants to see what you are like, how you are different, and what you have to offer her, as a unique individual. This requires work on your part, and this, too, is something women look for.

A woman wants to feel cherished, as if she's the only woman in the world for you. No mass emailings. Yes, she can tell. She has feminine intuition.

5. And you have gut instincts.

Gut instinct, and the ability to add one and one and come up with two. Gentlemen, if there were money in it, there would be a million porn sites for women, wouldn’t there?. Avoid that language. Don’t choose a nickname like “Horny in Howardsville.” On eHarmony, don’t send the “How do you feel about premarital sex?” question. Do not make references to your anatomy (or hers) and for heaven’s sake don’t send a photo of same or have a webcam experience in mind. You'll scare her off.

6. Women fall in love with their ears.

If you want to love more parts of her body than that, you have to start with words. This means paying attention to her words. Therefore, you must read her profile, sir, and respond to it, not just cruise through the photos. You must also actually read her emails.

7. Speak to god in Spanish, to your horse in German, to your men in French, and to woman in Italian. (Attributed to King Charles V)

It's music to their ears ... do you think it's because of all those vowels? At any rate, Italian opera has lasted longer than most things on earth, so check it out. It involves the other great tool of seduction, music. Music is great for stress reduction, and dating is stressful for men and women both. Music soothes the savage beast. When Orpheus needed the nasty Charon to row him over to Hades, what did he do? He sang him to sleep. You want to sing her defenses to sleep, so start learning how. Club Vivo Per Lei / I Live for Music will educate you, one sweet step at a time. Named after Andrea Bocelli's "Vivo Per Lei," a singer women love. He sang the duet, "Vivo Per Lei" with female singing stars from 5 different countries. He also happens to be blind, and you can't believe how tired we get of being queried about our appearance. Lately I've seen some progress ... men now write "It's okay if you're a little overweight." JUST SAY NO and skip all comments about weight. To the Italian, every woman is "bella," and, in fact, "you do not love her because she's beautiful, she's beautiful because you love her."

8. Don’t tell a man what to do.

We’re not trying to, we’re trying to sort out if you mean what you say. Be clear about what you want in terms of relationship and believe her when she says what she wants. If you’re not interested in marriage, and she is, don’t pursue her. Foul play!

Make sure your actions are true to you, as actions speak louder than words, especially when a woman is sizing up a man for a potential date or partner.

9. 90% of people on the sites admit to lying (said a recent survey).

Most often about age, however, weight, income, and marital status are also fair game, as well as anything else. Empathy may not be your strong suit, but think about it – what if you spend $1,000 to fly across the country to meet her, and it turns out her photo was 10 years and 50 lbs. ago? Don’t lie. It will come back to haunt you in the end, anyway.

10. Rejoice that dating websites are starting to feature live chat, live video and free VolP Broadband Long Distance.

Just be sure you’re dressed when you do it, tiger.

Check out my ebook, "Midlife Dating Survival Manual for Women".

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Last Minute Panic about the Thanksgiving Feast?

Well, the big day is almost here! I just received an article through my list saying you should’ve had it all planned out 10 days before, and that’s past, of course, so – as a former giver of events, and a long-time hostess, chef and bottle-washer for the Thanksgiving Feast, let me help you out!

Be completely traditional. Having just attended several early Feasts at offices I visit, let me assure you, there’s nothing like it. Yes, that deep-fried turkey is great (so I’m told), and some Emeril creation is designer-impressive, but what people love is the same old traditional things, so here goes.

1. Get a frozen Butterball. You can’t beat it. Extensive directions on the label, and also on their website. Everyone wants to help you with your turkey!

2. Stuffing – well, in the south it will be cornbread, and in the north, white bread, but Pepperidge Farm sells them both in packets to which you add chicken broth (buy it in a can, or like I just did – in a box, free range chicken and fat free) . Start by sautéing 1 medium onion and 2 stalks of celery, cubed, in about 2 T. of butter. Then follow the directions on the bad, and add to the sautéed veggies. Add pecans or walnuts if you like, at the end, water chestnuts, whatever strikes your fancy. Raisins I’ve seen! (Plenty of recipes on the Internet.)

3. Mashed potatoes. With that great turkey gravy you can even get by with mashed potato flakes. I saw a woman in the office break room the other day mixing it up right there with nothing but a microwave, and they were great.

4. That green bean casserole. All it takes is opening cans – a can of mushroom sauce, a can of those French onion rings.

5. The pies? Many people buy them frozen, or from Marie Callenders or a caterer, but I encourage you to make your own. It’s a real treat. Pie crust is the easiest thing in the world if you use more shortening than is required, and make the 2-pie crust recipe for just one. Then you don’t have to worry about making the crust on the edges nice and high. Get a can of pumpkin pie mix with the evaporated milk. Grocery stores now batch these items so you don’t have to hunt. For the crust, use the extra dough. Roll it out again and use a cookie cutter to cut out some shapes and place them on top – I use fall leaves!

6. Buy two pints of whipping cream and make your own. Makes all the difference. Recipe on carton. All you need is an electric mixer. Use vanilla in it, nothing else. Far, far better than cool whip. It's those touches that make the difference in your meal.

And now, my two favorite recipes for the sweet potatoes, or yams as they’re called in the south.

SUSAN’S SWEET POTATO CASSEROLE

Bake 3 large yams in the oven at 350 till tender. Test with a knife. When it goes through without resistance, they’re done.

Mash with 4 T. butter, ¾ C. brown sugar, and a dash of cinnamon. Put into a greased casserole. Put marshmallows all over the top. Put back in the oven at serving time until marshmallows are brown, and casserole is heated. You can add raisins and nuts if you like – about ½ cup of each should do it, but we like it plain.

And the piece de resistance (the best part) my Special Topping for Apple Pie. I should add that I fix pumpkin and mincemeat pies, but this apple pie is the one that everyone eats. Instead of putting regular crust on top sprinkle the following on top and bake the usual way.

APPLE PIE TOPPING

1/3 cup butter
¾ cup light brown sugar
¾ cup sifted flour

Cream butter till soft, blend in brown sugar. Mix in flour till mixture is crumbly. Sprinkle these crumbs over the top of the apples.

p.s. If the gravy panics you, I’d don’t recommend you buy the canned or packaged product. Rather shop around town for a caterer that sells it. It will be worth every cent. Likely it’s frozen and you can stop by tonight. If you need help, give me a call - 210-496-0678.

And don't leave out the most important ingredient -- the gratitude!
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Why Thanksgiving is the Best Holiday

THE FEAST

"Why Thanksgiving Is Hands-Down The Best Holiday,"
BY Dave Lloyd

The Thanksgiving season is upon us and just a few days from now, most US citizens will be traveling too far on the worst travel day of the year, to see family they'd rather not spend an afternoon with and will likely see again in another month, and eating far more than they should of some of the best food they've ever tasted on what is a uniquely American holiday.

And while the cynics among us have hit a fever pitch with their decrying of the commercialization and corporate marketing rollouts that have been growing in waves for the last decades, it remains that Thanksgiving is a top holiday for many US
citizens.

Of the Big Five, (Easter and July 4th plus the fall triumvirate of Halloween, Christmas, and Thanksgiving) was there ever a question. The three main reasons - least commercialized, most bang for the buck, and one of the 3 times of real Reflection all year. Thanksgiving falls right in the middle of the peak shopping season and therefore can't escape being part of the marketing blitz. In fact, the day after Thanksgiving is always one of the busiest shopping days of the year.

However, the day of Thanksgiving itself has remained largely untouched by Madison Avenue, except for the necessary foodstuffs, in comparison to Easter, Fourth of july, and certainly Halloween and Christmas. Easter and Christmas marketing efforts are weeks long in preparation and fireworks spending is also remaining strong. And Halloween is a short-lived holiday that many kids look forward to, but parents dread - not only for the candy that remains but the late dark night and weeks of
candy-grubbing afterward.

Thanksgiving, though, has remained true to it's roots - a time to be with loved ones, eat good food, and travel as much as you visit. As far as bang for the buck, though, nothing beats it. While many begin turkey preparations up to a week ahead of
time, the overall preparation is simple. Just show up and start eating. I mean, you've got to eat anyway on the last Thursday of November. But you certainly don't have to look for eggs, light dynamite on fire, buy 10x too much candy, or do everything people do around Christmas - yet we all do it.

Thanksgiving has stayed true to its origins and provided much satisfaction for a relatively easy investment of time, money, and effort. And even if you are the host or cook for the year, other family are always willing to chip in.

Finally, Thanksgiving truly is a time to sit back and consider what you have to be grateful for. In fact, many families include a time around the dinner table to talk about what they have and are grateful to have. And besides one's birthday and New Year's Day, there is no other specific time during the year when everyone is reflecting collectively. So while the shopping season will hit it's fever pitch shortly after Thanksgiving and many will start stressing out over the few pounds, consumer spending, and family interactions they'll take over the next month, Thanksgiving will still remain the Last Great Holiday.


About the Athor: Dave Lloyd has developed http://www.thanksgivingdinner.info to provide Thanksgiving lovers, children doing Thanksgiving research projects, and
turkey, pumpkin pie, mashed potato, and cranberry sauce recipe seekers with a quick way to find the information they need. See http://www.thanksgivingdinner.info for information.
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I love Thanksgiving because the focus is on gratitude. In the field of emotional intelligence, which is about WELLNESS, there is little that can help us as much as an attitude of gratitude. If you are alone and would rather not be, do try and focus on all the things you have to be grateful for -- small and large.

I think it's very fitting that here is one of the things I'm always immediately grateful for about Thanksgiving: as the cook, hostess, and someone who also presented banquets and festivities when in the field of public relations, the Thanksgiving dinner -- unless you decide to make it something else -- is one of the easiest meals to prepare there is. The turkey in the oven takes a nice long time to cook so you can be doing other things, and the smell is divine. Practically everything can be done ahead of time with only the gravy being last minute. It's a meal the cook can cook and also spend lots of time with the folks, enjoying the day and even resting!

If you're feeling low, sit down and make a list of all the things you have to be grateful here. Enough food to eat and a roof over your head. The chance to gather with friends, even though there are people you miss, and maybe even one special person. Not having to cook (or getting to). A nice long weekend off from work, and don't forget to be grateful for work, with all the people unemployed in the US. That you don't live in the hurricane-zone and/or being grateful that you were able to help the victims of the hurricane. For beautiful music to listen to and a fire in the fireplace. For your children, parents, and other loved ones. And for the blessings that will come this year!

FOOD IS SUPPOSED TO GIVE US NUTRITION. Does it?

While we're talking about the feast, it's a time to think about nutrition. We all know we aren't getting the vitamins, minerals and supplements we need any more from our food, no matter what or how much we eat. Are you taking a good dietary supplement? ARBONNE has several excellent ones, well-researched to provide what you need for healthy living, with pure inredients. Check them out. I recommend DefenseBuilder and Get Well Soon Dietary Supplement.

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Thanksgiving and the Single Person

WELL-KEPT SECRETS ABOUT THANKSGIVING AND THE SINGLE PERSON

Did you know that more than 47% of US households are headed by unmarried individuals? The American Association for Single People projects this figure will continue to rise in the coming decade. Therefore, if you are single you are not alone. And … if you have single adults in your social circle, don’t assume alone means “lonely.”

As Thanksgiving approaches and we start making holiday plans, here are some things to keep in mind.

Perception: That it’s terrible to be alone for the holidays.
Reality: This is mostly a projection of married people who fear the unknown or could not tolerate being alone before they were married. The reality is that single people who observe what goes on at holiday get-togethers between couples, 50% of whom are destined to be divorced at some point, think there are worse things than being single.

Perception: That single people are desperate to be invited over for Thanksgiving dinner.
Reality: Single people have myriad options and no one to consult. I can go on a cruise, stay home in my bathrobe and declare it a non-holiday, do meaningful volunteer work at the homeless shelter, invite friends over, or get a dinner reservation at a hotel. Or I can accept any one of the numerous invitations I get. Contrary to what you might think, we single people are popular at the holidays. Most of us have accomplished social skills and are welcome additions at holiday gatherings

Perception: Single people don’t know what to do for holidays.
Reality: We’re used to planning our social lives actively, good at generating options, used to making unilateral decisions, and accomplished “mixers.” We’re pros!

Perception: Anyone who’s single is fair-game to perform certain social tasks during the holiday celebration.
Reality: We like to be cherished guests, just like everyone else. “Can you come for Thanksgiving dinner. I need some help with Aunt Edna?” is not an invitation. If your family doesn’t get along and you’re inviting the single person to “throw a steer in with the bulls,” that’s not nice either. It’s your problem; solve it yourself.

Perception: Single people are available to do certain physical tasks.
Reality: This isn’t an invitation either: “Can you come over early and help out in the kitchen. I’ve got my hands full.” What about her husband? Her sisters? As best-friend, yes; as the only working-guest, absolutely not.

Perception: That the only "happy" way to spend the holidays is if you are a
couple or part of a family.
Reality: If that were so, half the articles on the Internet this time of year wouldn't be about how to cope with family at the annual holiday get-togethers.

Perception: That single people are miserable during the holidays.
Reality: Yes, it can be difficult if it’s their first Thanksgiving after a divorce or after a spouse has died, but the majority of single people are no more miserable than anyone else, and perhaps less so. Since being single (with grown children), I’ve had the same levels of pleasure, the same good and better holidays, but there’s one thing for sure – I’m more rested, and that in itself goes a long way.

So if you’re thinking about including a single person in your family gathering, make sure it’s because you want them there, not to fulfill a function or because you think they’d be miserable if it weren’t for your invitation. A guest is a guest, whether they’re single or married, and good manners prevail.
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How to Teach Your Child Gratitude

HOW TO TEACH YOUR CHILD TO BE GRATEFUL

The holidays are approaching. Another year has blown by. Our children have grown miraculously before our eyes. As the Thanksgiving holiday approaches, we pause to reflect on our blessings - what we're thankful for. For many of us, we struggle with the concept of blessings as it requires that we take a long hard look at our lives and acknowledge our strengths, as well as our struggles.

As adults, we have the emotional maturity to engage in quiet introspection. Children, however, require mentoring around the abstract concepts of giving thanks and acknowledging the bounty in their lives. Though difficult to communicate in terms that children, especially young children, can understand, it is essential to provide guided introspection around the holidays so that children learn these valuable skills and can begin to appreciate how different our lives would be without good health, love, and family.

Some children will not have the maturity to understand introspection and reflection but they can be taught that “bounty” or “plenty” does not refer to material things.

Meet Tom:

Tom is 6 yrs old. His mom and dad separated 4 months ago. This will his first big holiday with his parents living apart. Tom lives all week with his mom and his dog Charlie. He goes to his dad’s every other weekend.

During a recent visit with his father, Tom awoke several times during the night – on both Friday and Saturday. Dad shared the change in Tom’s sleep pattern with mom and both agreed to watch Tom to determine if it was a temporary change or an indication of a deeper problem.

Tom continued his nighttime awakenings over the next 10 days and exhaustion was catching up with him. Mom received reports back from school that Tom exhibited uncharacteristic behavior. Formerly a bright and sunny child, he seemed more irritable and moody.

Uncertain how to handle the change, they called upon expert help. After several discussions with Tom and his parents, it was clear that Tom was reacting to having his family split for the first time during a holiday.

His parents were educated on how to show Tom to see change in a way that would be more accepting. They were also taught the value of the concepts of thankfulness and plenty as a tool to accept change.

Together they worked to instill these values in their son, showing Tom that having plenty did not mean having all the coolest toys, that the things that matter are family, good health, and feelings. Tom was guided to change his perception of his parent’s separation and focus on their abundance of love for him rather than on the fact that they did not live together. He was shown how to be thankful for his family and all that they shared. As Tom began to understand the true meaning of what it means to be thankful, his nighttime awakenings stopped.

This holiday season, keep in mind the following tips:

1. Awareness: Of those things that are plentiful in your life

2. Teach: Your children the concept of plenty in terms of non-material stuff.

3. Strengthen: ways to draw upon the bounty in your life and build upon it.

Dr. Charles Sophy, Beverly Hills, CA, USA dr_charles_sophy@yahoo.com. Dr. Charles Sophy currently serves as Medical Director for the Los Angeles County Department of Children and Family Services (DCFS), which is responsible for the health, safety and welfare of nearly 40,000 foster children. He also has a private psychiatry practice in Beverly Hills, California. Dr. Sophy has lectured extensively and is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychiatry at the University of California Los Angeles Neuro-Psychiatric Institute. His lectures and teachings are consistently ranked as among the best by those in attendance. Dr. Charles Sophy, author of the “Keep ‘Em Off My Couch” blog, provides real simple answers for solving life’s biggest problems. He specializes in improving the mental health of children. To contact Dr. Sophy, visit his blog at http://drsophy.com.

This article doesn't go into the how-tos. To learn real examples of what exactly to do, read my ebook "How to Develop Your Child's EQ."
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Eco Bra

BRRR ... Baby it's cold outside ... so what do you do for insulation? Well the Eco Bra and EQ both work!

Have you read about the new Japanese prototype Eco Bra? I love looking at some ofthe Japanese "inventions." Sometimes I'm not sure whether they're for real or not, for instance, the overalls for crawling babies that have dust pads attached to them so the baby cleans the floor as he crawls along. Real or not real?

Okay, Eco Bra ... real or not real? It is furry and comes only in white. The Eco Bra comes accompanied with, if you like, a white furry boa, white furry shorts and very heavy furry knee socks, more like booties.

The Japanese are apparently asking everyone to keep their thermostats set at 68 all winter, and the Eco Bra is supposed to help keep women warm. The Eco Bra has little pads you can heat in the microwave and then stick inside the cups of the bra. You can see it modeled HERE.

The Eco Bra will certainly help keep the woman warm when it's cold, i.e., it will be good insulation.

That's what emotional intelligence does for you -- gives you good insulation against the "shocks that man is heir to," and helps keep you "warm," when things are "cold." It bolsters you against rejection, for instance. In studies, the best predictor of a salesperson's success was how high his or her EQ was in regards to the competency of optimism or ability to handle rejection.

It's as ridiculous to think emotional intelligence can keep you completely INSULATED as it would be to send that poor Japanese model out in the snow in the white furry shorts and Eco Bra ... but it's a start, something to keep close to your heart, and, in the case of EQ, a necessary one.
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Can't Get Him to Take You on a Cruise?

NOTHING CAN BE AS ROMANTIC AS A CRUISE, AND MOST WOMEN I KNOW WOULD LOVE TO GO ON ONE WITH THEIR HONEY. (Guys, you read this too, to see what you've been missing.)

Just the thought of having your guy all alone surrounded by all that romantic ocean, looking up at the moon and stars, or all to yourself in your cozy stateroom with a “do not disturb on the door,” doesn’t it make you weak in the knees?

Now we all know we can’t tell our man what to do, so how do you get this to happen? What you need to do is start dispelling the MYTHS about cruising.

MYTH #1: Real guys don’t go on cruises.
REALITY: Well, there’s my friend who loves to cruise who’s a doctor. He owns his own airplane and yacht, with licenses to pilot both, and has an active lifestyle, jogging several miles each morning, playing competitive tennis once a week, and bicycling any other time he can. Why does he like to cruise? Because – doh – it’s romantic. In the guy sense. He’s got HER all to himself in that cozy little stateroom. Actually he prefers a room with a private balcony. He knows if you want the kisses, you can’t just be romantic, you have to seduce, and that means pleasing his lady. He knows how to set the scene, and cruises work.

MYTH #2: You have to wear a tux.
REALITY: It’s quite possible to go on a cruise and never dress up. If he hates to dress up, he doesn’t have to. Many people don’t. There are casual dining options for every meal, where the food is just as good, but you don’t have to wear a suit, and you don’t have to sit for a long time. There’s also room service. Nor do you have to dress up to dance.

MYTH #3: It’s all about food.
REALITY: Cruise lines these days offer healthy alternatives, and there are always fruit and salad bars. On my last cruise, a river cruise in Russia, I actually LOST weight.

MYTH #4: It’s sedentary.
REALITY: ROFL. Consider the length of a cruise ship. Elevators they have, but not down the corridors. I would imagine you walk miles a day. There are also fitness centers on most ships, a deck used for a track, aerobics, yoga and dance classes, and the option of active shore excursions. You will only gain weight on a cruise if you want to.

MYTH #5: It’s confining.
REALITY: Again, these ships are huge. Try and find someone! You need a walky-talky. There are libraries, conference rooms, hundreds of rooms, numerous dining areas, lobbies, stores, crew areas, the infirmary, and numerous decks. Yes, the rooms are small, but here, more than any other vacation, you won’t want to be in it. If you want to read, watch TV, or share a drink with your honey, there are 100 nooks and crannies, bars, lounges and conference rooms where you can be alone, or feel alone.

MYTH #6: It’s too expensive.
REALITY: I’ve got a cruise coming up that costs $350 for 4 nights. You couldn’t stay in a good hotel and eat anything for that price. On a cruise you can have steak every night, food available around the clock, and Broadway-style entertainment. If you shop for cruise bargains, there’s no better value. Price it out for him.

MYTH #7: I can’t use my computer. I’d be out-of-touch.
REALITY: Most ships have computer rooms; most docks have Internet cafes. You can always be reached on the ship, and cell phones work from most of the ports.

MYTH #8: It’s boring.
REALITY: There are casinos, entertainment, people to talk to, games, and antics around the pool that keep the men captivated, shore excursions, movies, and crew maneuvers to watch such as docking and tendering.

MYTH #9: It’s all girl stuff.
REALITY: Really? How about gambling and drinking, risqué poolside contests, and shore excursions, some of which are rated “strenuous,” such as: All terrain eco adventure; snorkeling and SCUBA; Atlantis submarine; ATV and horseback riding on the beach; certified 2-tank dive; cave adventure by jeep; cavern dive; kayaking; climbing park; golf at country club; deep sea fishing; dolphin swim; rent a powerboat and escape to private beach; Hobie catamaran challenge; and motorbikes?

MYTH #10: It’s dangerous. There are hurricanes.
REALITY: Rather than give statistics, I’m going to share a personal experience, the best testimony there is. I was speaking on a cruise ship during Isabelle, and here’s what happens. They aren’t going to risk lives or that multi-million dollar ship. Hurricanes only go about 5 miles an hour, and you’re not a stationary object like the state of Florida, you’re on a moving vessel that can easily outrun it. It’s exciting, but not scary. You may get re-routed, but you’re safe on a ship, and will have a great story to tell back home.

MYTH #11: What if we get sick?
REALITY: Think of a cruise ship as a small city; after all there can be thousands of passengers and crew on board. They have a doctor, a nurse, and protocol for emergencies. (Do buy the special health insurance they offer; most policies don’t cover you in international water or outside the US.) That ship where everyone got sick? What about that flu that went through your office last year? Those things happen, but if you’re immune system is up (take an Arbonne neutraceutical like Defense Builder to keep it built up) you should be okay. The first thing that will happen once everyone’s on board is muster, where you learn what you’d do if there were a fire. There’s a safe in your room. They think of everything, and the crew isn’t there, highly-trained and in uniform, just to look pretty.

MYTH #12: I’d miss the kids.
REALITY: Being them along. The “camps” for kids have the latest toys, games and computers and are well-supervised. Babysitters are available at night.

MYTH #13: I get seasick.
REALITY: Read about the stabilizers on these ships. In fact the equipment and technology on a cruise ship are always fascinating to men, and one of the draws. Watching from the top deck when the ship docks, is a great favorite, as is tendering. Probably the biggest thrill of all is a lock. On the Russian river cruise we must’ve gone through 15 locks, and the men never tired of it.

A cruise has something to offer everyone, and to accommodate to all lifestyles and ages.
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"Finding the Perfect Gift for Your Date"

Dating relationships are tough enough, but finding the perfect holiday gift for your latest flame can be even tougher. Sending the wrong gift can also send the wrong message. And if you've only been dating for a short time, you may even not yet know all of your sweetie's interests and passions and the gift that will please them most.

And if you've only been dating a short time, should you give a gift at all? If sparks are mutually flying, go ahead and be as romantic as you feel. On the other hand, you may want to tread lightly if you're not sure where you stand. Sometimes an overly romantic gift can create awkwardness when it's not reciprocated. It's hard to go wrong with cologne. Something that shows a special effort can also be a nice gesture. For example, homemade cookies in a decorative tin or you can play DJ and burn a custom mix CD.

Still don't know where to start? Here are some ideas --

FOR HER

* A funky & casual watch with changeable bands
* Bubble bath and soaps in a matching scent
* An assortment of gourmet chocolates
* Luxurious cashmere blanket

FOR HIM

* A trio of gourmet coffees and a mug in his favorite color
* Cigars
* Leather day planner or case for his iPod
* Tickets to his favorite sporting event (but you get to come along)

FOR BOTH OF YOU

* Champagne in a bucket engraved with your love poem
* Candlelit dinner out on the town
* Sign up for dance lessons, and enjoy an entire month of cha, cha, cha
* An engraved ice cream scoop, assortment of toppings and a quart of your favorite flavor

If you're still puzzled on what to give, how about a gift certificate? Although deciding from which store to buy the certificate can be equally puzzling, GiftCertificates.com has an innovative solution. Imagine giving a gift certificate where your sweetie can choose their favorite store!

GiftCertificates.com offers a SuperCertificate® that lets the person receiving your gift pick from over 200 top stores, restaurants, spas, jewelers and more. It's the gift that's always appreciated because it also gives the gift of choice.

Let her go wild! She might love to be pampered with an indulgent soak in the tub with a gift certificate from Spa Finder, a stack of romance novels from B. Dalton or even the the perfect diamond from Blue Nile.com. And for him? He'll get just what he wants like a scarf to keep him warm on winter days from Barneys New York, a sporty new watch from Fossil.com or a soft sweater from Land's End. Your honey will have fun choosing from these and thousands more gifts ... all the while remembering you gave this wonderful gift experience.

Sending the right gift not only expresses your affection, but can also set the stage to answer the eternal dating question, "Where is this relationship going?" Pick the right moment to give your gift (a champagne toast under the mistletoe) and make
it even more memorable - a holiday filled with romance and laughter.

About The Author: An avid gift giver, Daniel edits gifting advice for http://www.GiftCertificates.com/, the premiere website for gift certificates to hundreds of merchants including the most popular stores, airlines, hotels, theaters, restaurants, online services, and more.
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Where Are All the Suitable Men and Women?

WHERE ARE ALL THE SUITABLE MEN / WOMEN / JOBS / PARTNERS
... ANYTHING?
There's a lot of EQ wisdom in this article whether you're a woman looking for a man, for someone looking for anything you don't seem to be able to find ...

"Where are all the suitable men?"
by Michael Myerscough

Recently one of my e-zine subscribers emailed me about an experience that she and three of her friends had. It seems they went out speed dating and none of them found anyone of interest. Which resulted in the question 'Where are all the suitable men?' Well generally I try to keep that kind of information for my paying clients but given it was such a direct request I'm going to share it with you.

The suitable men have a special club that they belong to. It's a club that requires a suit and there are no women allowed. If you're looking for them you're out of luck because they've realised life is a whole lot easier without a woman looking for the perfect man. They have passwords, secret handshakes and everything else necessary to keep their club well hidden. You're never getting in. So thanks for asking ;-)

That leaves you with the rest of us!

The real answer to 'where are all the suitable men?' is simply this. That suitable man is wherever you are, he's walking in the same park you're in, he's in the same coffee shops you're drinking in, he's standing next to you in the supermarket. You may not meet him today or even tomorrow but I know for a fact he's out there.

So how can 4 women go to a speed dating event and not manage to find at least one suitable man? I even spoke to the woman that wrote to me. It turns out that 15 guys ticked her box, which means they're eager to date her. She only dated one of them who
turned out to be too young for her.

I attend dating events in a professional capacity and I know that they can attract the worst kind of men, but generally 75% of them are presentable and you can side step the rest. So worst case scenario this woman got ticked by 5 social liabilities which leaves her with ten at least reasonable men. So she picks the guy that's too young. Does that strike anyone else here as interesting?

One of the earliest things my clients do, male or female, is draw up a list detailing their 'Perfect Partner'. There is a tendency for some people, and this generally applies more to my male clients, to be totally unrealistic. So point number one is that if you're looking to get with someone who's a ten you better be at least an eight or they're not going to approach you or allow you to approach them.

The second issue, and I think this is where the initial question really comes from, is that a ten will rarely be found at a speed dating event - finding people to date isn't something they struggle with. Your job is to find the places where they do spend time. This is the tricky bit for some people but it's easily fixed. There are so many different ways of meeting people. The thing is it takes perseverance.

One of my clients started going to Toastmaster's because she wanted to meet some quality men and figured that an organization dedicated to learning how to speak up in public would be a great place to start. Initially it was hard work, the group was fairly closed but over time things started to warm up and before long she was dating the Vice President.

If you start dance classes then you need to persevere to the point where you stop looking like a dork and then people will get a lot more interested. It's a phenomenon referred to as
'social proof'. Once you start being accepted in a group your value goes up and suddenly you have chemistry.

Potentially the truth is that our suitable men really are hanging out in clubs, you've just got to get access and figure out how to get their attention. If the people you meet are below the standards you've set then you need to look in a better environment. I once worked with a guy who worked as a bouncer in a strip joint and wondered why all the women he met there seemed to be a little out of balance.

So I have two answers to the question.

One possibility is that some of the things you're specifying as essential qualities are unrealistic and either you, or your love interest, are never going to measure up. The second possibility is that you're hanging out in all the wrong places. If this is your issue it's time to stop being lazy and generate some much better ideas about where to find these 'suitable men'. A relevant quote by Edwin Lowes Cole that I like is 'You don't drown by falling into water, you drown by staying there.'

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TIPS ON FINDING SUITABLE MEN

* One of my favourite examples of looking in the wrong place is women going to aerobic classes. There are three men in an aerobics class and twenty eight women, what are the odds for a woman looking for love? Unless you've got a total fixation on the teacher and you've got something special to offer you're probably wasting your time there.

* Build up a picture of the kind of man you are looking for and then start to ask yourself where he might be found? If you really have no idea start asking your friends for ideas. There are 101 places people can hang out doing things you may have absolutely no idea about at the moment. I recently went to a fancy goldfish auction and discovered a whole new sub-culture I had no idea existed. Your world is a lot bigger than you think!

* Look at your perfect partner list and make sure it really is your list. Sometimes the things we think would make us happy haven't but we continue in the same vein hoping next time it'll be different. Some things make no sense - women excluding guy's because they can't imagine walking down the aisle with a guy an inch shorter than her ideal, guy's rejecting women because they're not blonde and built like Barbie. The unexamined list is
not worth living! (Sorry Socrates.)
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By Michael Myerscough, professional speaker and relationship success coach. Michael has lots of great tips, tools and articles on his website that you can use. Visit him at http://www.therelationshipgym.com/ and sign up for the fr*ee relationship information.
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Single for the Holidays

THE TOP 5 QUESTIONS TO ASK AN ONLINE DATE
BY Erick Shidmon. (Please keep in mind, the only way to stay safe is to investigate. Visit TheCloser for the questions they aren't willing to answer!)

Online dating services are on the rise, especially special feature websites, like teen online dating, gay online dating, and senior online dating.

The drawback to online dating, certainly for these special interest groups, is the validity of the person on the other end of cyber space. Cyber stalking is up 55% in the last two years, and meeting someone on the outside after meeting them online in a chat room or through an online dating service can be risky business.

Here are the top five questions and online dating tips. The questions are designed so that you may be able to get a better sense of who the person is outside the monitor.

But just to be safe, be sure to meet your date in a public area and stay in a public space for the first date. Do not let them know where you live and be aware of giving leading information out while in a chat room.

. What is the biggest mistake people make when first dating? (This will give you an idea as to how the other person really feels about the opposite sex.)

. What do you look for in a guy/girl? (Be aware of canned banter. If they come off with the usual "sense of humor, nice personality," they probably haven't thought much about a real answer.)

. Define a truly successful relationship. (This one is my favorite, listen for blaming of others. Hint: A truly successful relationship is where both get a better sense of self, whether they stay together or not.)

. What happened with your last relationship? (Again, listen for blaming. Do they take responsibility for the breakup? If they're willing to share equally, great, if they take all of the blame they probably have low self esteem and are needy. If they won't take any of the blame they are control freaks and probably cruel.)

. What do you really think about online dating services? (Will let you know if they are desperate, open, or controlling.)

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How to Get Noticed for Date Online

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Online Dating: 12 Steps To Get Noticed And Get A Date OnlineAuthor: Alison Edwards

If you want to achieve success with online dating, you will need to educate yourself with the online dating scene. Online dating sites provide a service for people to meet but a dating site can only do so much of the work and input is required from you if you are serious about meeting a partner online.

Whilst thousands of people are joining dating sites every day, hundreds are not making the most of the services a dating site has to offer. I'm no psychic but I'm pretty certain that someone who writes a dull or uninformative profile, doesn't include a photo and makes no effort to contact anyone will not be inundated with invitations for a date.

By making a few simple changes to the way you are dating online, you could see instant results meeting people you would never have met before so don't be a wallflower, stand out online and be proactive in your search for a date.

1. Sell Yourself

Your profile is like an advertisement and you need to sell yourself in the dating game.

The eye-catching part of you profile is your photo. Include a photo of yourself (not someone else or a cartoon!) and you could increase your responses by as much as 8 times.

Answer all questions honestly, be positive, focus on your good points and provide members with just enough information about yourself so that they are eager to find out more. Please don't talk about exes or how miserable your life is.. it won't attract people to you!

2. Search outside of the box

We may all have an idea of our ideal partner but just because someone is slightly younger, older or from a different town doesn't mean they won't turn out to be your ideal partner! Most dating sites provide a search facility to vary your search settings so if your search results don't reveal anyone who catches your eye try widening your search settings.

3. Get intimate anonymously

The beauty of online dating is that you can get to know someone without revealing any personal details. Emails are sent using an anonymous messaging facility so take advantage of this and spend as long as you wish getting to know someone. Don't feel
pressured into meeting up with someone you have just met online. If they are serious, they will be happy to wait if this is your preference.

4. Make the first move

Don't be shy - you make the first move. Remember everyone online is serious about meeting someone so, if you see someone you like, contact him or her first. Don't wait for someone to contact you.

5. Make conversation
Show your interest - The best way to get someone's attention and get a response is to ask a question specific to his or her profile. This shows you have read their profile and are
interested in them.

Flatter them! - Don't be afraid to use your charm! Whether you like their photo or you are impressed by the fact that they have run the marathon - tell them. Everyone likes receiving compliments.

Make them laugh! - I think if you can make someone laugh or someone makes you laugh, you're on the path to a good relationship. Be witty and amusing in your messages and they will look forward to hearing from you.

Be flirtatious, not rude! - Don't be afraid to flirt a little if that's how you feel but equally don't be too flirtatious as it could be taken the wrong way. Never talk about sex or imply
this is what you are looking for.

6. Keep a little mystique!
Whilst I would encourage you to talk openly and honestly about yourself so that people get to know you try not to tell your whole life story in one e-mail. Hold a little something back for the next message.

7. Arrange a chat room date
Chat rooms are another great way to chat instantly with someone without revealing any personal information. A quality chat room will also provide the facility to have a private one-to-one chat with someone so if you've messaged someone, why not invite them to meet you in the chat room at a specific time and day just like a "real" date. You can then decide whether you want to take it further "offline".

8. Chat on the phone
If you're thinking of arranging a date with someone, chat to him or her on the telephone first but use the blocking feature to prevent your number appearing on Caller ID. Go over topics that you've mentioned in emails to verify that what he or she has told you is the truth. Ask yourself if the voice you are talking to is someone you feel comfortable with and someone you could trust.

9. Don't be disheartened
If you've sent a message but haven't received a reply, don't be disheartened. There could be many reasons why someone hasn't replied to a message you've sent; the recipient may not have logged on for a while, their membership may have lapsed or they may not be a full member entitling them to reply back to you.

If you've sent one message then follow it up with a second message to show him or her that you are genuinely interested. If you still don't get a response, move on to the next person!

10. Give people a chance

If you receive a message from someone who does not immediately tick all of your boxes, don't rule them out straight away. Reply back to him or her and try and find out a bit more about them. You may have more in common than you first thought and, if not, at least you can say you tried.

11. Be polite when rejecting

If you don't like someone who has contacted you, do not be rude or offensive. You can either ignore them (hopefully this will get the message across) or politely tell them you are not interested. A reputable dating site will provide a facility to "block" nuisances sending you messages so, if someone is pestering you, don't be afraid to use this tool.

12. Be safe!

Do not give anyone your home telephone number, address or workplace address until you have met a number of times and are 100% comfortable with that person. Remember that people can be whoever they want to be online - wait until your instincts tell you this is someone you can trust.

If you find you don't get many responses, you may need to think about alternative conversation starters or rewrite your profile.

Hopefully you've got the idea now so it's over to you! Good luck and remember to have fun!

About The Author: Alison Edwards runs http://www.SnappyDates.com a UK based dating site. SnappyDates.com is an active community where people of all ages meet looking for a relationship, friendship and even marriage! SnappyDates.com's services include anonymous messaging, chat room, private one-to one chat, various search methods and much more.
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George W. Bush met with the Queen of England. He asked her, "Your Majesty, how do you run such an efficient government? Are there any tips you could give me?"

"Well," said the Queen, "The most important thing is to surround yourself with intelligent people."

Bush frowned. "But how do I know the people around me are really intelligent?"

The Queen took a sip of tea. "Oh, that is simple. You just ask them to answer an intelligence test. Listen to this".

The Queen pushed a button on her intercom. "Please! send Tony Blair in here, would you?"

Tony Blair walked into the room. "Yes, Your Majesty?"

The Queen smiled. "Answer me this, please, Tony. Your mother and father have a child, who is not your brother and is not your sister. Who is it?"

Without pausing for a moment, Tony Blair answered, "That would be myself."

"Yes! Verry good, thank you," said the Queen.

Back at the White House, Bush asked to speak with Vice President Dick Cheney. "Dick, answer this for me. Your mother and your father have a child, who is not your brother and it is not your sister. Who is it?"

"I am not sure," said the Vice President. "Let me get back to you on that one."

Dick Cheney went to see his advisors and asked every one, but no one could give him an answer. Finally, he ended up in the men's toilets and recognized Colin Powell's shoes in the next stall. "Colin!" he shouted, "Can you answer this for me? Your mother and father have a child who is not your brother or your sister. Who is it?"

Colin Powell yelled back, "It's me, you idiot!"

Dick Cheney smiled. "Thanks!"

Cheney went back to the Oval Office to speak with Bush. "Say, I did some research," he said, "and I have the answer to that riddle. It happens to be Colin Powell."

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LOOKING FOR MR. or MS. RIGHT?
Are you currently searching for that special someone? Your soulmate? Mr or Miss Right?

Would you like to know where to find them?

Don't worry! I'm not going to set you up with some of my friends (sorry Johnno), or give you contact details for the local pick-up joint, or internet dating service.

But as someone who is sharing an incredibly loving and passionate relationship with my beautiful wife Helen, perhaps I can offer some help. (Let's hope Helen reads that bit!!)

So here are my thoughts below. If you understand these points and take the appropriate actions, I believe you stand a VERY good chance of having your own "love of your life!"

MASSIVELY IMPORTANT POINT:

Ladies, you cannot and will not find Mr Right. Instead, become Miss Right and you will attract Mr Right.

Gentleman, you cannot and will not find Miss Right. Instead, become Mr Right and you will attract Miss Right.

Let me explain. We don't find anyone. We attract people who are a match for whoever we currently are.

If you're currently not attracting the kind of person you want in your life, perhaps it's because you're not the kind of person they're attracted to? So if you want to attract your perfect match, become someone who is desirable. And then this person will come to you.

Your ability to influence and change others is limited. If you attempt to find the person of your dreams and make them like you, then you're in for a long and difficult journey. However if you work on improving yourself, then you stand a much better chance of success.

So how do you become this person? How do you become Mr or Miss Right, in order to attract your soulmate?

For starters, why not work on these three areas:

(1) Learn to be happy.

Realise that your happiness does not depend on having this relationship. There is a saying, "Happiness is enhanced by others but does not depend upon others."

If you're not already happy, then a relationship will not provide you with what you're missing. If you're already happy, then a good relationship will build on that happiness. So if you seek happiness through a relationship, you will not find it.

You need to get rid of the idea of finding happiness "out there", in your partner, or in the relationship that you share. Happiness is found within yourself, and nowhere else.

So firstly, in order to become Mr or Miss Right, work on becoming happy.

(2) Learn to love yourself.

You can't have a great relationship until you're a person capable of giving and receiving love unconditionally. And the first part of achieving this is to learn to love yourself. A relationship is about giving, not receiving. How can you give
love to someone if you have none within? How can you properly love someone else if you can't even love yourself? It's impossible.

Learn to love yourself. Accept yourself for the perfect divine creation that you are.

(3) Learn to love life.

Stop trying to find that person who will complete you; who will bring joy, love, excitement and passion to your life; who will help you "live happily ever after".

Instead, accept responsibility for creating the life of your dreams. Bring joy, love, excitement and passion to your own life. Live happily ever after anyway. Laugh, play and enjoy yourself. Learn, grow and live with passion in everything that
you do.

If you're happy, and you love yourself, and you love life then you will have so much more to give to others. You'll have become an exceptional person. Your life will be great. And you'll attract not only many great friendships, but also perhaps that someone special you're so desperately searching for right now.

The answer to what you're seeking is not within someone else, but rather it's within you. It is your own attitudes and beliefs about yourself. It is a belief in love. It is a belief that you are worthy of love. It is a belief that you are a good, strong, confident and happy person. It is a belief that you have something great to share with someone else.

Once you have this self belief, or self love, then you have become Mr or Miss Right. Then and only then will you attract a relationship that is truly magical.

The hardest part is deciding to make it happen. After that it's easy. Don't become overwhelmed by the task ahead. Allow yourself to grow little by little, each and every day. Trust in the process, and enjoy it.

It's your choice. Mr or Miss Right are found within. Choose to become that person now. Be happy. Love yourself. And love life. It's worth the effort.

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Take Care of Your Health for the Holidays

Ten Tips for Affordable, Efficient Holiday Decorating When You’re Busy & Broke

Fall is harvest time so take advantage of the bounty of nature. It’s Thanksgiving time, so take advantage of the generosity of others. Some clever hunting and gathering can help you save time and money and still have a festively decorated home for the holidays.

1. Gather branches, leaves, seed pods, pine cones, acorns and anything else from your yard that fits with the fall color scheme.

Even without a glue gun you can arrange attractive centerpieces and mantel displays.

2. Visit the produce department of your grocery and pick vegetables that suit your color scheme.

Squashes come in all colors, shapes and sizes and last a long time unrefrigerated. Pumpkins may be reduced after Halloween and work well. Arrange them in groups, alone, or around the greenery.

3. Check out your garden for what’s in bloom.

Lucky you if you have chrysanthemums, but many other things will do if you’ll take a second look.

4. Cheap tip for a real glow? Buy a fair-sized mirror at the dollar store or thrift shop, place it on your dining room table, buffet or any low table (you have to be able to see the reflection) and cover it with tea lights or candles. Beautiful!

5. Get accent pieces from your local Goodwill store and thrift shops.

People donate the most amazing holiday decorations that can be yours for pennies. I’ve found everything – hand towels, wreaths, pillows, dressed stuffed animals, wall pictures, bedspreads, water globes, statuettes and serving pieces.

6. Change out your lamp shades.

Check out the lamp shade selection at Goodwill and buy some to fit your color scheme, or simply in darker shades to cozy up the house. It only takes a minute to change them. Just make sure before you go to check how your lamp shades attach and match them.

7. Don’t forget to check out the holiday picture frames at the resale shop or garage sales.

You could move a favorite photo to a holiday frame and place that somewhere prominent. Neat if you use photos from former holidays, like when the kids were little, or your grandparents were still alive. Also look over the prints at garage sales and bargain stores with an eye toward the frames. You can throw out the print!

8. If you have a neutral couch with pillows, shop the bargain stores for accent pillows in fall colors, or change them all to the thematic color. Slipcovers are also a possibility.

9. Let the children make some decorations.

Some suggestions: Painting Thanksgiving pictures you then frame and hang on the walls or use for placemats. Cutting out leaves in fall colors to place around the centerpiece, scatter across the front door step to welcome guests, or pin to curtains. Given them clay or play-doh and let them fashion pilgrims, turkeys, leaves, or fruits.

10. Don’t forget yourself!

Most thrift stores set up displays of holiday apparel you’ll want to take advantage of for you and the kids. (And the most beautiful hostess is the one who is rested and enjoying the event herself, so take care of yourself and use your EQ skills.)


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