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Men in Power « intuitive * introverted * creative

Check out this great article on Nancy's blog.

It's an interview with Photographer Harry Benson quoted in the New York Social Diary.

From the blog:
Q: Did you ever photograph Bob Dole, because everyone says he’s really funny?A: Yes, but a terrible temper. And so does Bill Clinton … oh terrible! Goes red! Just screaming and red-faced … eyes bulging!Q: You mean screaming at underlings?A: Maybe, but the underling might be the Secretary of State or somebody!

To read the rest of the article go here: Men in Power « intuitive * introverted * creative

It ends with an EQ tip:

"And then they would stop and they would look at you, and what you must never do is meet their eyes … you’re more like a primate. If you meet their eyes, you’ve had it!"

Word!To learn more about emotional intelligence, nonverbal communication and difficult people, take THE EQ COURSE. You will never regret it!
It's good for anger management, and also for manging the rage of others.

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How to Use the Holidays to Learn

Friday, November 02, 2007
If you'd like to learn more about your emotions -- get ready for the lessons!

The planet Mars is coming as close to earth as it gets in mid-November. We think we saw it the other night, big and bright. It's fitting because I just read Clousewitz on War, and A History of Warfare, by John Keegan. I also brushed up on my emotional intelligence.

Why? Because Mars is named for the god of War, and war has been around a long time - anger, violence, arguments, conflict - but like any energy, this energy can be used for good things, or bad things. It's self-protective (we fight to protect ourselves or our loved ones, or our possessions), but if you let this energy get out of hand, or misinterpret or over-react to threats, you miss all the better ways to manifest your "warrior spirit."

• In the coming weeks we will have the holidays and the political scene, football, our relationships (or lack of them), and our work situations to explore this energy with. How you experience the holidays will depend on how prepared you are -- emotionally. It is a time of intense extremes. Coaching can help you keep perspective. I'll be available all through the holidays for sessions. Email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc .
  
  This intense time of year can make us more prone to temper tantrums, outbursts, violence, and even cruelty. But it can also bring fighting spirit for good things, bravery and even heroic acts.Our emotional energy needs to be understood and modulated.
  
  Beware of:
  Addictions rearing their ugly heads
  All the negative emotions - anger, guilt, worry and fear
  Extreme highs and extreme lows
  Fighting
  Over-reactions - including rescuing and over-helping
  Increased stress from hiding anger and negative energy we don't know how to deal with
  Intense startups that exhaust us and then peter our (one-week exercise program, the 2-day "diet")
  Fanaticism and proselytizing
  Stress, stress, stress - chemicals that exhaust and stress you and related health problems, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
  

Remember that unless you trap them, emotions come and go. Don't focus on the downside, keep centered, focus on the good, and "just say no" to the emotional rollercoaster. (Remember that "what goes up, must come down" and keep it level.) In other words don't focus on what you fear and/or want to avoid; that gives it power and traps it. Focus instead on good outcomes and positive things.

Email me @ sdunn@susandunn.cc for my TIPS FOR COPING with THE HOLIDAYS.

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How to Get What You Want

Ram Dass, spiritual teacher, author and professor said:

"The most exquisite paradox ... as soon as you give it all up, you can have it all. As long as you want power, you can't have it. The minute you don't want power, you'll have more than you ever dream possible."

I've got LOTS of examples of this from clients. Let me show you how, what, when why and where to "give it all up" so you can get what (WHO!) you want. It's what I do - coaching you, so you can get what you want. My specialty is STRATEGY.

P.S. I am collecting EXAMPLES of how when you gave up and quit wanting it you got it. Please send yours. Would love to add it to the collection - sdunn@susandunn.cc .

P.P.S. Timing is everything. Email for free mini-coaching session, mailto:sdunn@susandunn.cc/ and mention this offer. Take THE EQ COURSE - anger management, emotional intelliegence, better relationships, more success at work. Why not give this course to a friend or loved one for Christmas? Email me and I will send the lucky recipient a beautiful gift card.

I work all holidays. Yes, Thanksgiving Day, Christmas Eve, etc. Nights and weekends.

Take THE DIFFICULT PEOPLE COURSE now and be prepared for the holidays, because .... guess who's coming to dinner? There are all sorts of testimonials on my website about these courses. They really work. Copied from MySpace.com --Find me on MySpace and be my friend!