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See my article "9 Myths About Being Single at Christmas" on this blog.

Coping with the Family Fights

There's a theme running through my emails these days -- family feuds at the holidays. It's hard enough bring alone for the holidays, without anticipating the tension of a family gathering.

NOW THERE'S HELP.

One theme is sibling rivalry -- how YOU handle your sisters/brothers, or how the parent is supposed to. Someone who always jerks your chain, or makes comments. A relative you just don't seem to get along with who keeps provoking you?

One person wrote me that their family Thanksgivings always ended in a fight. Last year the two brothers (both grown adults) broke the china cabinet in the living room in a physical fight. Other families fight verbally, or with silence and innuendos.

There's a lot of tension that makes it unpleasant for all.

Another man wrote me that he was going to get a hotel room this time, so he would have a place to get away to. He told me about the hostility between some of the women in his family.

HERE IS SOME HELP WHERE YOU NEED IT MOST.

Here's an online course to help you through the holidays.
YOU LOVE THEM - NOW LEARN HOW TO GET ALONG WITH THEM

Step-by-step practical help with dealing with the difficult people in your life. Just in time for the holidays. This Internet course covers all Difficult Types.

"I noticed an improvement right away." -- Andrea

"Finally, now, I the "people pleaser" can enjoy MYself too." -- Shelley

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Single People Get the Short End at Thanksgiving

From "If you don't have anything better to do," to "When are you going to straighten out your personality and get married," single people have a rough time over the holidays.

Isn't it time you quit taking the bait at family get-togethers?

Now there's the DIFFICULT PEOPLE course just in time for the holidays.
Stop taking the bait and learn to enjoy yourself at these occasions.

You love them, not learn how to get along with them.

Course is on the Internet with unlimimted email support. Click HERE order. You will be contacted immediately by email.

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Hard to be Alone for ths Holidays

HOW TO SAVE YOURSELF DURING THE HOLIDAYS

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Category: Life

The holidays are had on us all. I'll be working all through the holidays. Please do not hesitate to call me. That's why I'm here.

Free mini-coaching session - justemail me at sdunn@susandunn.cc and mention this offer.

THE HOLIDAYS LIFESAVER

THE HOLIDAYS ARE COMING ... AND LOOK WHO'S COMING FOR DINNER

From "pull my finger" to "haven't you gotten a boyfriend yet" to "when will you get a job" and "your curtains are duty" -- they'll all be there.

Here's an course to jelp you through the holidays by Susan Dunn the award winning EQ Coach.

YOU LOVE THEM, NOW LEARN HOW TO GET ALONG WITH THEM

Step-by-step practical help with dealing with the difficult people in your life. Just in time for the holidays.This Internet course covers all the Difficult Types.

"I noticed an improvement right away." — Andrea

"Finally, now the "people pleaser" can enjoy MYself too!" ~ Shelley

Clickhere to order this new ONLINE COURSE INTERACTIVE for instant empowerment. It will be emailed to you.89.99.

You love them now learn to get along with them

THE HOLIDAYS ARE COMING ... AND LOOK WHO'S COMING FOR DINNER

Here's an course to jelp you through the holidays by Susan Dunn the award winning EQ Coach.

YOU LOVE THEM, NOW LEARN HOW TO GET ALONG WITH THEM

Step-by-step practical help with dealing with the difficult people in your life. Just in time for the holidays.This Internet course covers all the Difficult Types.

“I noticed an improvement right away.” — Andrea

“Finally, now the “people pleaser” can enjoy MYself too!” ~ Shelley

$89.99 - CLick here to order this new ONLINE COURSE INTERACTIVE for instant empowerment. It will be emailed to you.

Isolation and Wellness

Let me help you. One-time free coaching session if you write and mention this blog. Email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc . Phone or email.

I'll be working all during the holidays, including the days. The holidays can be a hard time for us. Do not hesitate to call me. I'm here to help.

Emotional Intelligence is Good for Your Health
HEALTH: PSYCHOLOGY; Researchers Add Sounds of Silence To the Growing List of Health Risks - New York Times

This article was written in 1988 by Daniel Goleman for the N. Y. Times, and still we are only beginning to deal with the idea of emotional intelligence, wellness and social support.It's important to note that if you cannot connect with people emotionally, you can be isolated and lonely in a room full of people.It is hard to ignore data like this. It makes a very compelling case for developing your emotional intelligence.

From the article:

Being cut off from friendships and one's family doubles a person's chances of sickness or death ...Although social scientists have long known there was a strong association between loneliness and illness, it was unclear until recent studies which was the cause and which the effect.But the new studies, summarized in the current issue of Science magazine, show that a lack of social relationships in and of itself heightens people's susceptibility to illness.''

The data shows that people who are isolated but healthy are twice as likely to die over the period of a decade or so as are others in the same health,'' said James House, a sociologist at the Institute of Social Research at University of Michigan, a co-author of the report.

The report, co-written by two other researchers ... summarizes studies ... on the effects isolation has on health that have been done over the last two decades. In the studies, more than 37,000 people were assessed over periods of up to 12 years.... ''It's the 10 to 20 percent of people who say they have nobody with whom they can share their private feelings, or who have close contact with others less than once a week, who are at most risk,'' Dr. House said.

More Risky Than Smoking

In adding to the list of factors that put people at an increased risk for disease, the report said social isolation ''is as significant to mortality rates as smoking, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, obesity and lack of physical exercise.''

''In fact, when age is adjusted for, social isolation is as great or greater a mortality risk than smoking,'' it added.While smoking makes a person about 1.6 times more likely to develop illnesses of all kinds, social isolation makes a person twice as likely to become sick, the researchers said.''After controlling for the effects of physical health, socioeconomic status, smoking, alcohol, exercise, obesity, race, life satisfaction and health care, the studies found that those with few or weak social ties were twice as likely to die as were those with strong ties,'' Dr. House said. 'Isolation is more devastating to men than to women ...

The comforting effect of another person's presence has been shown to lower not just heart rate and blood pressure but also the secretion of fatty acids that can block arteries.

Effect in Brain Theorized

One theory of why the presence of another person might help suggests that there is an effect in the brain from social contact. The theory holds that social contact inhibits activity in the posterior hypothalmic zone of the brain, lowering the rate of secretion of acetylcholine, cortisol and catecholamines, chemicals that trigger more rapid breathing, a quickened heartbeat and other physiological signs of stress.

Signs of Stress: The Body Reacts

Social isolation can have a broad range of physiological effects, notably on the brain and the cardiovascular system, among other major organs. Loneliness seems to lower the effectiveness of the immune system while increasing stress on the heart. One theory holds that social relationships can lower the rate of secretion of certain brain chemicals that cause rapid breathing, a quickened heartbeat and similar signs of stress.

To read the full article, follow the link above.

IF YOU OR SOMEONE YOU KNOW IS SUFFERING FROM ISOLATION, let me help you. Coaching is a great route to go. It is just as effective by phone and email. Someone you can talk to who has your interests at heart. Emotional Intelligence coaching helps us learn the social skills that keep us from being isolated.

Note the effects on MEN.

Take the EQ Course, email me for coaching, sdunn@susandunn.cc .

Are You Ready for Marriage?

Featured article on weddingpath: http://www.weddingpath.com/paths/uk?SMI=24&L=0&CPN=echoes/Issues1To10/readyformarriage/Article

From the article:

The Top 10 Signs You Are Ready For Marriage
by Susan Dunn.

So you've probably already decided to get married, but are you displaying the tell-tale signs that suggest you are ready to settle down?

1. You no longer feel compelled to talk about your ex.

Until you have resolved those issues and laid your previous relationship to rest, attempts to turn the other party into a therapist will make it a "transitional relationship." Don't deliver one, and don't agree to be in one. We often wish there were someone to be with while we go through the grieving and healing process. If we're healthy, however, we don't involve others
in this madness (unless we're paying them by the hour to listen). If the other person colludes with you in this, they're not serious either. When you're ready to date, you're fully present and emotionally available to the new person.

For coaching, email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc .

Single for the Holidays

Hoping for love this holiday season and beginning to feel a little blue. Let me help you. Coaching for singles on how to cope with the holiday season, where to meet compatible people, how to know if someone is interested in you, how to manage the complicated new dating scene. Also information about SAD (seasonal affective disorder) - many adults suffer this during the winter time when there is less sunlight.

Susan has been chosen Attract Your Dream Partner for expert.com and Adult & Senior Development Expert for SelfGrowth, the largest self help portal on the Internet, rated #1 by google and yahoo.

Why wait? Start now! Email sdunn@susandunn.cc for more information.

It's Better to be Alone Than ...

Men in Power « intuitive * introverted * creative

Check out this great article on Nancy's blog.

It's an interview with Photographer Harry Benson quoted in the New York Social Diary.

From the blog:
Q: Did you ever photograph Bob Dole, because everyone says he’s really funny?A: Yes, but a terrible temper. And so does Bill Clinton … oh terrible! Goes red! Just screaming and red-faced … eyes bulging!Q: You mean screaming at underlings?A: Maybe, but the underling might be the Secretary of State or somebody!

To read the rest of the article go here: Men in Power « intuitive * introverted * creative

It ends with an EQ tip:

"And then they would stop and they would look at you, and what you must never do is meet their eyes … you’re more like a primate. If you meet their eyes, you’ve had it!"

Word!To learn more about emotional intelligence, nonverbal communication and difficult people, take THE EQ COURSE. You will never regret it!
It's good for anger management, and also for manging the rage of others.

sdunn@susandunn.cc

How to Use the Holidays to Learn

Friday, November 02, 2007
If you'd like to learn more about your emotions -- get ready for the lessons!

The planet Mars is coming as close to earth as it gets in mid-November. We think we saw it the other night, big and bright. It's fitting because I just read Clousewitz on War, and A History of Warfare, by John Keegan. I also brushed up on my emotional intelligence.

Why? Because Mars is named for the god of War, and war has been around a long time - anger, violence, arguments, conflict - but like any energy, this energy can be used for good things, or bad things. It's self-protective (we fight to protect ourselves or our loved ones, or our possessions), but if you let this energy get out of hand, or misinterpret or over-react to threats, you miss all the better ways to manifest your "warrior spirit."

• In the coming weeks we will have the holidays and the political scene, football, our relationships (or lack of them), and our work situations to explore this energy with. How you experience the holidays will depend on how prepared you are -- emotionally. It is a time of intense extremes. Coaching can help you keep perspective. I'll be available all through the holidays for sessions. Email me at sdunn@susandunn.cc .
  
  This intense time of year can make us more prone to temper tantrums, outbursts, violence, and even cruelty. But it can also bring fighting spirit for good things, bravery and even heroic acts.Our emotional energy needs to be understood and modulated.
  
  Beware of:
  Addictions rearing their ugly heads
  All the negative emotions - anger, guilt, worry and fear
  Extreme highs and extreme lows
  Fighting
  Over-reactions - including rescuing and over-helping
  Increased stress from hiding anger and negative energy we don't know how to deal with
  Intense startups that exhaust us and then peter our (one-week exercise program, the 2-day "diet")
  Fanaticism and proselytizing
  Stress, stress, stress - chemicals that exhaust and stress you and related health problems, physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
  

Remember that unless you trap them, emotions come and go. Don't focus on the downside, keep centered, focus on the good, and "just say no" to the emotional rollercoaster. (Remember that "what goes up, must come down" and keep it level.) In other words don't focus on what you fear and/or want to avoid; that gives it power and traps it. Focus instead on good outcomes and positive things.

Email me @ sdunn@susandunn.cc for my TIPS FOR COPING with THE HOLIDAYS.

Email consultation, phone, THE EQ COURSE